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“I need a man…who’s gonna treat me right. I want a man…who’ll be with me every night. I gotta find me a man…with sensitive eyes. One who understands…that love is stronger than pride.” – Toni Braxton, Find Me a Man
Let’s just keep it real.
Chances are if you are over 40 and single for whatever reason, you are hoping that “the one” is just a chance meeting, Tinder swipe, or mouse click away.
I’m not exempt.
I am dangerously single and, since the idea of growing old alone and not having a toothless partner in crime to wear diapers with is a little sad, I too hope the man who is waiting for a woman just like me will eventually materialize in my life.
But in the meantime, I’m cool with winging it. Meaning, I’m okay with not having a relationship that makes me mad and sad more than happy and glad, just for the sake of saying “I have a man.”
It shouldn’t be common place for any woman to put up with anything that does not reiterate her worthiness and value, but unfortunately some have allowed themselves to stay in situations that are a long way from conducive to their well-being.
And this is, by far, one the most unnecessary ways to waste away years of your life that you will never get back.
Yes, I do believe life’s journey was meant to be shared, but shared with someone who genuinely loves, respects and appreciates you. Someone who is willing to put their needs before yours. Someone who is honestly concerned with having your best interests at heart.
You can always make the conscious choice to only accept that which is GOOD for you, ELEVATES you and brings you to a place of PEACE. No one in this world can do anything to you that you do not allow. But first, you must understand your worth and when you do, accepting anything less than you deserve becomes an instant issue of the past.
No more dealing with someone who takes you for granted.
No more constantly rebounding from relationships that ended due to lying, cheating, and other disrespect.
No more waiting for the commitment only to be led on and let down when the ring never materializes.
No more waiting for the “title” while you “compete” in a sea of other women.
And no more enduring endless text relationships, online encounters that never get to the next level of dating, and constantly attempting to sell yourself to men who are already looking over your head to the next best thing.
Decide to only entertain men that will bring added value to your life experience and promise yourself that you will no longer accept anything you do not deserve.
And if there is any confusion about what it is that you deserve, make no mistake. You deserve the very best of everything, and there are NO exceptions to this rule.
Nuff said. 😉